Did you see this? Outrageous!
This week Rolling Stone published an interview with Serena Williams, and she says some terrible things in it.
The biggest deal, and what has attracted the most notice, was her extended discourse blaming the victim in the Steubenville rape case.
Amazingly bad, especially for someone who holds herself out as a voice for women's rights, eh?
Don't worry, it gets worse. How? It gets worse because of what has been reported as her apology. I'll post the entire thing so you can decide how to think about it yourself:
Granted, she acknowledges that what happened to the victim was bad, which is a start, but she goes way downhill from there. First, she refers to the convicted rapists as “the accused”. Second, she posits that the suffering of the rapists is morally equivalent to the suffering of the victim. And finally, in three different ways, she tries to weasel out of what she did. As we know, an essential element of an apology is an admission that you did something wrong, but she fails to do this. First, she uses the passive voice (“what was written”) in the classic “mistakes were made” tradition of fake apologies. Second, she refers to the interview as “what I supposedly said”. The only way this statement makes any sense is if it is coupled with a denial that she said what she is quoted as saying, but she is too cowardly to go that far. If she really didn't say it, and Rolling Stone is lying about what she said, this would be a serious matter and she should be going all-out to attack Rolling Stone for lying about her, but it's telling that she never does that. Third, she says she “by no means would say or insinuate that [the victim] was at all to blame”. Of course, this is another lie, because that is exactly what she did. I've always kind of liked Serena Williams. She's a great player, and she seems to be pretty gracious about the fact that she's better than her older sister. Still, both her original statement and her fake apology fall far short of the standards that anyone should live up to.
She may be an amazing tennis star, but this in no way qualifies her as a credible commentator on social issues.
We have this odd habit of conflating talent on stage or the playing field with authority on other matters.
And many celebrities blunder right into that role without giving the smallest thought to the gravity of the situation.
They’ve got publicists who constantly push them out in front of a camera or a mic. It’s almost inevitable that, sooner or later in their champagne-sipping careers, they will say something stupid and thoughtless.
Serena Williams can’t relate to that girl any more than would Kate Middleton.
She’s been protected and scrupulously parented pretty much all of her life.
I hesitate to say this, but am compelled as it is an important discussion for young women, like it or not. On the surface of it, I agree that the comment is offensive and sounds as if she is punishing the victim. But if we can take a moment to consider our culture, it is a fair comment. As a woman who is also the mother of a daughter, I am well aware that a woman’s safety is very often a measure of her decisions about where she goes and what she does. I don’t like it but there it is. No one is suggesting that rape is an excusable behavior, but we live with a portion of our culture that sees women as objects that are expendable. Punishing the rapist does not diminish or vacate the damage done. I certainly told my daughter on more than one occasion exactly what Serena iterated; I am sure she heard it from her parents. In short, that a woman’s safety from rape is ultimately dependent upon the decency of men not sufficient. We have responsibilities to protect our daughters from it until our culture develops true respect for women. If that means cautioning them about the world they live in, so be it. Oh, and I am not a celebrity.